The Gift of Failure
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
As parents and educators, we are understandably focused on helping our children achieve their fullest potential. Also understandably, that focus can cause both parents, educators and students to feel occasional anxiety! As your daughter’s school psychologist, I strive to help students find perspective and build Resilience (culture of competence and independence), our yearlong featured core value. We can work together to show our girls that we value the learning process- praising the brave struggle and not simply the score or final product. We can help them find ways to use and apply their knowledge. We at The Academy at Penguin Hall instill a culture of competence and independence and at times that means allowing our girls to face a setback and learn from their mistakes.
Offering support and not control
Help our girls set their own goals
Treat failures as opportunities for growth
Realize that every “rescue” or intervention is a lesson lost
Give our children jobs and duties to practice and to contribute
We have these high school years to teach our girls at APH to be competent, secure and healthy. At times, that means that we need to share our stories of struggle and step back. We need to allow these bright young women to find unique ways to solve problems as they arise.
Mary holds a BS in Elementary and Special Education from Lesley College in Cambridge, an MED in Counseling and a CAGS from The University of Massachusetts, Boston.